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How To Be An Effective Montessori Parent?

Finding and implementing a good parenting philosophy for your child is one way to make our children find greater success in the future. An approach that can help you raise an independent and responsible child is the Montessori approach in parenting.

The Montessori approach is based on the principle that children must be provided with tools and materials to learn by their efforts. It is one of the most comprehensive approaches to parenting today. This way of parenting emphasizes child-directed learning, independence, and self-direction.

While it is true that implementing the Montessori philosophy at home with kids can be challenging and require lots of experience, there are things you can do at home to help your children learn and grow. Here is how you can start today.

     1. Prepared Environment

There are many prepared environments for the children to work in in a Montessori classroom. The teacher has made this environment child-friendly and prepared it with materials that can help the children learn. Children are given freedom of choice on which material to use, but they are provided with guidance.

You can do the same at home; you can “prepare” your home with materials that will help your child learn at his pace but still guide him in his learning process. For example, you can set up an area where your child can do work without distractions, like putting away his toys and books where he finds them useful for his current work or removing unnecessary items from the area where he is working.

     2. Continual Work Time

Children work within three-hour work periods in a Montessori classroom. Teachers encourage children to try again to finish the task even if they fail because they need to persist and practice until they finally see success.

You can provide your child with long periods of uninterrupted work time at home. You can watch your child closely during this period, but don’t interrupt your child unless necessary. Giving your child this space can help him learn perseverance and patience, which are key skills for him in the future.

     3. Close Observation

The teacher in a Montessori classroom is closely watching the children. The teacher is observing the child’s work and behavior to help him focus on his tasks. In the same way, you can observe your child at home to see what he is doing and how he interacts with other people.

Look for opportunities during this observation period to praise your child for his efforts. Make sure that the things you point out about your child are positive to feel more confident about himself and his abilities.

     4. Allow Children to be Creative

A Montessori classroom is relatively quiet and still. Therefore, teachers encourage children to work in a creative manner, which is then used as feedback for their work.

You can provide activities that allow your child to be creative at home, such as allowing children to be creative in the kitchen and letting them make messes; doing arts and crafts. Letting your child create things like puppets, plays, and stories; allowing him to make different open-ended toys; doing art projects like drawing pictures, bracelet designs, or sculptures.

     5. Respect Your Child as a Person

Teachers teach children respect for the elders, other kids, and teachers in a Montessori classroom. They also teach children about being polite to strangers and different people in the community.

At home, you can teach your child that he is a person who deserves love and respect from everyone in the family. It would help if you always showed your child that you value him by paying attention to his opinion, listening when he speaks, and being interested in what he has to say.

     6. Give Your Child freedom Within Limits

A Montessori approach emphasizes letting your kids guide their activities based on their interests. However, allowing your child too much freedom and not providing him with boundaries and limits can ruin his sense of responsibility and lead to poor choices.

For example, when you bring your child to a park, and he wants to run around and play baseball, you may decide that it is not a good idea for his safety. But, in the meantime, he will begin to feel that he has too much freedom and will probably make some bad decisions.

In the same way, you can limit your kid’s choices but still, show him that you value what he has to say by asking him questions about what he is interested in doing. You can also establish a rule of no TV or computer use before dinner time so that your child does not become dependent on them.

     7. Encourage Your Child

Montessori approaches are about learning how to read and write and about social development. The Montessori approach encourages asking questions, learning from their mistakes, and having fun doing what they are doing.

It would be best if you encourage your child the same way. You can tell him why you are encouraging him by telling him how he has made positive changes to his life even though you may not seem to see it yet. Tell him things like “You are learning so fast because you are trying so hard.” or ” You have picked up so many new words in the last week.” or “You have made every meal delicious for every family member.


Author bio

I’m Andrea Gibbs Born, raised, and still living in New York. I’m a work-at-home mom with a background in business development, strategy, and social media marketing. I’m a blog contributor at Montessori Academy to motivate and educate other parents about how they can get their children ahead of the game in school.

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